Correction from the Father
I recently asked a ton of wonderful women in a blogging group I am a part of, to please check out my blog and tell me if it was absolutely terrible. I mean, I had placed all this time into making it pretty and even created a free devotional for anyone who subscribes. I had placed countless hours, days and weeks into making the blog look presentable. So why was I only averaging 8 views per day?!?!
Well, over 40 women responded. They all gladly volunteered to check out the blog and see what they could suggest to help me. All of the women gave a really positive review. “I love the colors!” ” Be patient! It takes years for blogging to really catch on.” “It looks really nice, maybe try adding the most recent posts to the home page!” All helpful and encouraging….
There were two. Two reviews that were extremely long and I must admit the most helpful; but the hardest to read.
The first review was so long the young lady had to send me a personal message. In it she went into grave detail about my site. She commented on the colors not really popping, the format and flow, and then commented on posts I’d written. She had noticed that though my posts were transparent and good, they were not targeted towards my audience. In other words: How am I blogging to encourage stay at home moms if my posts are written to encourage them.
The second review commented on how little content my actual blog had. She suggested consistency. She even noticed that some of the links were broken and led to no information. (I DIDN’T EVEN KNOW ABOUT THAT!!)
I had explained that I’d experienced a lost of content however, I knew that wasn’t a legit excuse. I still should have been writing everyday.
I felt so convicted. Not condemned, but convicted. Here’s why:
The other ladies noticed what my subconscious wanted. My cosmetics. My outsides. On the outside the blog appeared to be really nice and could draw you in. And then I fed my worth off of their approval of my lack; as if I were pulling the shades over everyone’s eyes. But on the inside, I suffered internal errors. Broken links, poor content structure and placement and lack of focus for an audience.
My Pastor always says, so it is in the natural, so it is in the spiritual.
Gosh, how much my pride took a blow with these two reviews. I was heart-broken. I began to complain to God about how they just didn’t understand what I’d gone through and how hard I worked when He gently corrected me and said, ” The Father loves whom He corrects.’
That was when I realized. My flesh desired easy taps on the hand. “Oh, you only need to change this little thing over here or over there.” But I disliked the deeper correction. The question of “why are you lacking content? Why are your links broken or leading to no content?” It forced me to look at the real issue: That I had not been working towards the glory of God.
I had not worked my best on this blog. I had not researched, read, studied, consulted or even prayed how to create a blog that glorifies my Father. No. Instead I had taken time to make it look as pretty as I could to fool people into thinking it was something it truly wasn’t: complete.
How often do we do this as mothers for the Lord? How may times do we put on all the makeup, nice clothes, lose the weight, wear the smile so on the outside we seem put together but internally, we have missing redirects, broken links and lack of content?
As a mama, I know first hand how the world can seem to judge us. If we make one mistake we’re deemed a bad parent. If you use the cry-it-out method , you’re a neglecting mama. If you don’t give in to you children’s temper tantrums, you’re not supportive. If you don’t work in brick in mortar but stay at home, then you are lazy. If you do work outside the home, then you don’t care about the well-being of your child. If you don’t clean for two days, you’re questioned, “What are you going with your life?’
I have been there, in ever scenario and it turns out I’m still there. But God did something amazing with correcting me in my blogging. He showed me how the world will “help” you versus how God will help you. The world will look at your parenting, look at your finances, will look at your outside appearance, and career and say “Everything looks great! Just a little cosmetic/surface level tweak and you’re good to go.” But God, He will look deeper. He will go search through every page in your life and he will find every piece of brokenness and redirect it to him. He will take every unrelated content and chuck it out the window and replace it with His Words.
I know its hard to take criticism in any area. I also know its hard to open up and allow yourself to be vulnerable and in a place to receive correction. But ladies, it’s so worth it to let the Lord look into your life and correct you in any and every area it’s needed.
The Word says, ” For the Lord disciplines those who He loves, and he chastens everyone he accepts as his son.” – Hebrews 12:6
I take comfort in this verse knowing that my Father loves me enough, and is concerned enough = to even correct me not only in my work ethics but also in my life as His child.
Be encouraged sisters!